I ask myself this question as I cry at night.
Why is my child sick? Why has he been diagnosed with this disease? Why so young?
I ask his doctor this question at his appointment.
Why does it not get better with treatment? Why so many medicines? Why surgery?
I ask this question to God as I pray.
Why does this child suffer like this? Why does he have this cross to carry? Why him?
No one will ever forget the day that their child was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease or Ulcerative colitis. From that point on, everything becomes “before and after.” When you have a sick child, all else seems to stop. Your world, your life, your very being centers around helping him or her; all else falls to the side. At least it did in our home when Jimmy was diagnosed.
My name is Liz. My husband, Jason, and I have three sons. Our youngest son, Jimmy, was diagnosed with UC in October of his kindergarten year. We had a very rough year and a half trying to get him into remission. Currently, he is a happy, healthy eight year old with the help of Humira.
Now our goal is to build up what was lost during those years of active disease. We are checking off delayed milestones – riding a two wheeler, trying sports, as well as physical milestones like delayed growth and loss of those precious front teeth. These diseases affect the whole person and the whole family in ways it is hard for those who have not lived it to comprehend. It is our role as parents to help shift the focus off of why and onto how – how do we build up our children?
In October 2013 I attended my third ImproveCareNow Learning Session as the parent representative for Riley Hospital for Children. It is the development of these “how’s” that inspired me to get involved with ImproveCareNow and with my care team at Riley. Not only do we want to understand how these children get this disease and how to treat it, but I love that ImproveCareNow focuses on other how’s – like how to achieve a higher remission rate, how to increase adherence and how to transfer children successfully into adult care.
At the Fall 2013 Learning Session there were twenty parents in attendance. As pre-work for the session, the parents were asked to answer two questions:
What is your vision of improved care?
What does pre-visit planning with your child mean for you?
[Editor’s Note: Liz D is the mom of a three boys. Her youngest son was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis at age 5. She volunteers her time as a parent representative on the Riley Hospital for Children Parent Mentor Group, where she is an advocate for all families with IBD receiving care at Riley. A mechanical engineer by trade, Liz has “retired” and loves her role as a full time wife and mother. This has also allowed her to pursue her love of all that is artistic and creative. Over the past 12 years, she has taught both photography and memory preservation classes to both adults and kids.]